||[Jul. 18th, 2005|08:42 pm]
My 7 (almost 8) year old daughter is driving me nuts. I love her more than life itself but lately she has just managed to push every single button of mine. Lately we cannot seem to take her anywhere in public where she doesn't throw a full-fledged tantrum like a 2-year-old, whine/cry/shout loud enough to attract the attention of other patrons wherever we may be, and talks back and argues almost constantly. Today we went out for pizza and she didn't get her way about something and cried (well, rather HOWLED) nearly the entire time. I told the other people at our table (who were getting embarrassed because so many people in the restaurant were staring at us at that point) to ignore her because she wanted the attention. This only caused her to get louder and mouthier. Everyone pretty much hurried up with their meal so we could get the hell out of there. I don't believe in spanking a child, so spanking is not an option, but I really need some advice on how to discipline her!|
When we came home and I informed her that she'd be getting an 8:30 bedtime instead of the usual 9:30/10:00 bedtime, she threw another fit. She kept saying she was sorry for acting up, I said I accepted her apology, but the consequences for her acting that way were going to be kept. To that, I got more whining, screaming, begging and a million "why mommas" after I'd already explained everything in detail to her. I explained that I loved her, I explained why she had to have consequences, etc. Nothing appeased her.
This child is too old to be acting this way, in my opinion. As I said, I love her dearly, but I don't know how to deal with this. We can't seem to get through a day without a melt-down. I know a lot of it has to do with her father's relationship with her (we're separated and he's with someone else after he told our daughter he was going to get back together with me... lots of drama there) but I need some suggestions on how to deal with her in a positive way. Any ideas? Thanks in advance.
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